what if a sex toy is left inside

It’s a funny thing when you find yourself in a situation where you’ve left a sex toy inside you — because no matter how small that toy is, it can make you feel very exposed and embarrassed. All of a sudden, the taboo of private behaviour becomes very public and you don’t know what to do.

When it happens to me, I feel so embarrassed that I might as well just walk around with a sign on my back saying “yes, I use sex toys”. Even though I’m quite open about this sort of thing in my social circles, I still feel awkward and exposed when it inevitably happens.

Once I was in a situation like that and I had to actually seek medical advice. The gynaecologist had an absolutely wonderful bedside manner and didn’t make me feel embarrassed or ashamed in the slightest. She gave me advice on how to remove the toy and was so helpful in explaining why it happens to so many women, which put me right at ease.

My friend had a similar experience when she went out for a romantic night with her partner and didn’t realise that her dildo was still in situ. So, needless to say, there weren’t a lot of romantic activities that night. She opted to go to the nearest hospital and asked for help. Luckily for her, the doctor was really understanding and didn’t make her feel uncomfortable about it in the slightest.

I’ve also talked with other women and there are some brilliant products available that can help you get yourself and your accoutrements out of sticky situations like this. For instance, vibrators lubricants are a fantastic product that can help you avoid painful crushes as you attempt to remove your toy.

Not only are these items great for helping you out of a pickle, but they can also be used to enhance your sexual pleasure when you’re engaging in intimate activities. And bonus points for all the gents out there, it can be super helpful when your female partners have toys that may help add a bit of excitement to the bedroom.

My best advice for avoiding the dreaded situation of leaving a sex toy inside you is to be sure to always check after you’re done — no matter how rushed off your feet you might be. Plus, it’s a great idea to try alternate positions and speed it up or slow it down in order to make sure you can get everything back in its rightful place.

I think it’s also important to remember that no-one is immune to this kind of thing happening — it’s just one of those taboo topics that nobody openly talks about, but is almost a rite of passage in the world of sexy exploring. Embrace it, learn from it and most of all, remember that it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you if it does happen. We all have our own curves and edges, and nothing is ever black and white.

In terms of preparing for the inevitable, I’d suggest that couples keep a spare lube on hand just in case. It’s never fun to feel like you’re stuck, so having a bit of extra lubrication ready to go can be a lifesaver.

I’d also advise to be mindful of the size of the toys you’re using and ensure it’s not too big to fit snugly inside you — that way, vibrators you can avoid any potential embarrassments or situations where you might need the help of a doctor.

It’s true that the thought of leaving a sex toy inside you can certainly be daunting. But with the right know-how, and by taking precautions, you can avoid that sort of drama altogether.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that there are plenty of women out there who’ve had similar experiences and who want to talk about it with other women. Having conversations like this are really important; it allows us to not feel so alone and helps us get into new realms of pleasure without any fear or embarrassment.

A few elderly friends of mine have also gone out of their way to let me know that the shame of engaging in sexual activities isn’t new and that in their day it was a miracle if a woman could find a sex toy and not be immediately accused of being a whore.

After all, sexuality is a part of us and all we can do is ensure we make informed decisions and enjoy it — start by partaking in some research and get to know your own body. Find out what type of toys work best for you, what makes you feel good and what kind of situations you might find yourself in should you wish to use one of these items.

Nobody likes getting caught with their pants down, so equip yourself with the knowledge and tools to make sure it never happens to you. Don’t be afraid to try new things, and if something does go wrong, just remember that it happens to the best of us — all that matters is that you’re safe and that you don’t let shame or embarrassment keep you from living your best sex life.